The Children
“Taking What Our Parents Gave Us To Do Something Valuable with It”.
This 3-hour LIVE online family constellations group session that incorporates live constellations.
This session will delve into:
- The difference between the bond and the relationship between parent and child
- The order relating to parents and the importance of standing in an adult place to embrace the Life we receive and to do something good with it
- Disorders relating to Parent and Child Dynamics: Dad’s daughter and Mother’s son
- The Mother and how it relates to Greatness and Abundance in Life
- The Father and how it relates to the Strength to manifest your dreams and goals
- Adoption
What can be constellated?
Anything that is affecting our life, our relationships. Things that are repetitive, persistent, or very intense and difficult for us to overcome or resolve.
What cannot be constellated?
Changing another person. In Family Constellations (FC), the work is focused on the consultant. However, since we are part of a family system, our change impacts other members of the system in multiple possible ways.
What are Family Constellations (FC)?
Family constellations was discovered and developed by Bert Hellinger (1925-2019). It is a therapeutic tool with a systemic, family-based approach that is brief in nature and solution focused.
Over time, this approach has allowed us to use this not only as a therapeutic tool but also as an innovative way to broaden our perspective and understand the relational dynamics underlying what we previously believed to be a certain way. They allow us to know and understand the laws that govern not only our relationships with other people but also with events, experiences, etc.
From the perspective of Family Constellations, ‘Order Precedes Love’, meaning that there needs to be order in relationships for love to flow adequately. When there is disorder, we feel obstacles, suffering, anguish, anger, and difficulty in moving forward in life. Through a Family Constellations process, we achieve a perspective that allows us to see possible paths toward order and solution.
“No matter how far away you go, you will always be connected to your parents, either in a way that strengthens you or in a way that weakens you.” – Marina Toledo
What is happening in a Family Constellations workshop?
We believe the wounds in our lives are a profound opportunity to grow. In these workshops, individuals have a chance to explore the hidden dynamics and unresolved issues within their families of origin that are contributing to the presenting challenges being faced in different and multiple areas of their life whether that is financially, socially, vocationally, familial and intellectually etc.
In a Family Constellations workshop, everyone who attends, whether they bring a specific issue, theme or not, actively engage in the process in one of three ways:
- As a Consultant exposing the problem you want to address
- As a Representative putting yourself at the service of work to assist the Consultant
- As a Participant, being part of, supporting, observing and helping to contain what is happening during the course of the constellation
We start the work with a group meditation. Then, the constellation begins when the Family Constellation Facilitator asks if someone has a theme they would like to address. After a brief interview to know the basics of the problem, other people from the group will be chosen to collaborate as representatives of the people involved in the issue to be addressed.
Once the representatives are chosen, they are placed in the space, and from there, the constellation comes to life in such a way that the representatives begin to feel the emotions, desires, and fears of those they represent.
It’s important to note that family constellation workshops can evoke strong emotions and may not be suitable for everyone.
Facilitators emphasise the importance of self-care and provide resources for ongoing support if needed including follow up consultations. Additionally, workshops may vary in structure and format depending on the facilitator’s approach and the specific needs of the participants.
Benefits
We come from a family system and we are part of a family system. To pretend otherwise is like pretending that a tree has no roots or that a seed does not come from a fruit. We are connected with all those who made our life possible, and that connection is within us. Often, we are not very aware of this or we avoid being aware. But we are. When we participate in a Family Constellations process , we bring that connection with us into the group session as well.
For this themed group session on ‘The Father’, we explore the concept that healing the father wound involves accepting him exactly as he was. This acceptance empowers us to face the world, find our place in it, and engage more fully with people and situations. This journey guides us toward personal and professional fulfillment.
Engaging in family constellations also offers broader benefits, including:
– Discovering new and expansive perspectives on repeating negative patterns
– Enhancing self-love and acceptance of the present moment
– Harmonizing and deepening your relationships
– Connecting with ancestral wisdom
– Joining a supportive community dedicated to healing and growth
Why focus on The Father?
In Family Constellations, we use the term ‘taking in our parents’ to signify an inner embracing, a deep integration of our parents within us, just as they are and were. Since life flowed through our parents and onto us, when we succeed in this healing movement, we become aligned with life itself.
For some people taking their parents is easy to imagine and for others this may seem like an impossible task. After all, some people think, how can I possibly embrace the people that hurt me so much?
There is a part of ourselves, a wounded child, that may have felt ignored, neglected, abused, smothered, abandoned etc. and wants to protect itself from the pain by rejecting our parents. The healing process can begin when, in spite of the wounds, our desire to heal is stronger than our anger, when we are open to the possibility of seeing our parents through a different, softer, wider gaze. At the same time, we ourselves can become the inner parent for that part of ourselves, we can be the adult that lovingly nurtures and takes care of our inner child and his/her needs.
In Family Constellations we go into another realm, the realm of the soul. In that level, we are presented with the subconscious dynamics that we are not able to perceive in everyday life.
Some of the consequences of rejecting our parents:
- Not being able to be satisfied with our life, no matter what
- Feeling unsupported and alone
- Constantly seeking something on the outside and getting dissatisfied with it after a while
- Depression and dysthymia
- Lack of self-esteem, feeling unworthy, inability to love ourselves just as we are
- Missing the strength to navigate the difficulties that come our way
- Inability to manifest our projects
- Feeling of emptiness, an existential void within
- Addictive behaviours
- Unfulfilling relationships
- Feeling disconnected from life, from others
- Feeling unsafe
- Difficulty in trusting
What happens after a family constellation?
It is normal to experience a range of emotions after a family constellation session. These emotions may include relief, sadness, joy, anger, or a sense of release. Participants may also feel emotionally drained or physically tired. Engaging in self-care practices after a family constellation session is vital to support your emotional well-being.
- Hydration, Rest and Relaxation: Keep yourself hydrated. Prioritise rest and relaxation to replenish your energy. This may involve getting enough sleep, taking breaks, and engaging in activities that help you unwind and recharge.
- Emotional Expression: Allow yourself to express and process your emotions. This can be done through journaling, talking with a trusted friend or therapist, or engaging in creative outlets such as art or music.
- Grounding Techniques: Engage in grounding practices to reconnect with the present moment and your body. This can include mindfulness meditation, deep breathing exercises, or activities in nature.
- Self-Compassion: Be gentle and compassionate with yourself as you integrate the insights and experiences from the constellation session.
What can be constellated?
Anything that is affecting our life. Things that are repetitive, persistent, or very intense and difficult for us to overcome or resolve.
What cannot be constellated?
Changing another person. In Family Constellations (FC), the work is focused on the consultant. However, since we are part of a family system, our change impacts other members of the system in multiple possible ways.
Testimonials
“Thank you Family Systems Hub for hosting the Constellation workshop, Very Powerful!” (Sarah,Qld)
“Devi was amazing. What an incredible opportunity to be a part of. It was powerful to be observing and I gained so much. I felt a powerful release in me take place in my relationship with my own mother. I”m coming back again!” (Valerie, NSW)
“I enjoyed the provocative nature of constellations. It was a unique experience on Saturday – it conveys how amazing things can happen when you listen to your body. A brilliant connection with self, and unthinkable connection with others.” (Sue, Victoria)
“The Children” Family Constellations Group Session
$120.00
