Understanding your highest priorities and values—and those of your children—can shape both their destiny and yours.
Does this sound familiar?
- Struggling to get your child to cooperate amidst the daily hustle?
- Feeling overwhelmed or stuck in a cycle of “shoulds”?
- Looking to better support children as a coach, teacher, or therapist?
- Facing challenges with your child’s school refusal or disengagement?
- Wanting to help your child discover what truly inspires them?
If any of these resonate, the key may lie in understanding values.
Why Values Matter
Values—what energise us and reflect who we are—play a vital role in shaping our lives. As Dr. John Demartini, a leading human behavior expert, explains, values are more than personality traits; they are our core motivations. By identifying and aligning with these values, families can build stronger relationships and create harmony.
A Family is Like a Company
Each family member contributes uniquely to seven key life areas: family, social, physical, spiritual, financial, vocational, and mental. Even siblings raised together can hold vastly different values. Recognising these differences can strengthen connections and reduce conflict.
Unlocking Potential Through the Value Determination Process
The Value Determination Process involves 13 questions designed to uncover your highest priorities. This clarity enables you to:
- Align your actions with your true self.
- Strengthen your relationships.
- Cultivate purpose and intention in life.
The Value Determination Process
Determining your own unique set of core values can be done on Dr Demartini’s website at no cost. In essence, the Value Determination Process takes you through 13 very specific questions:
- What do you fill your primary personal or professional space with most?
- How do you spend your time primarily when you are awake?
- How do you spend your energy most and what energises you most?
- How do you spend your money?
- Where are you most organised and ordered?
- Where are you most reliable, disciplined, and focused?
- What do you inwardly think about most?
- What do you visualise, and then realise, most?
- What do you internally dialogue with yourself about most?
- What do you talk about most to others in social settings?
- What inspires you most?
- What is common to those individuals, insights, experiences, or events that have inspired you the most?
- What are your most consistent long-term goals that are already coming true?
- What do you love learning, reading, studying, or listening about the most?
When talking about your core values, it is talking about what your life already demonstrates.
Answering those 13 questions listed above will help you identify what your life already shows as evidence of being a priority instead of what you think SHOULD be a priority or something you presume might help make you feel happier, more successful, or more fulfilled.
Who Benefits?
- For Parents: Gain insight into your values, dissolve draining “shoulds,” and reduce anxiety.
- For Families: Build deeper relationships by appreciating individual differences.
- For Educators and Therapists: Learn universal principles to better connect with children.
Take the First Step
Understanding values is more than a theory—it’s a transformative tool for growth. Begin your journey today and unlock the key to more meaningful relationships, smoother family dynamics, and lasting harmony.
