Regression looks like a step or two backwards in terms of your child’s development and behaviour. This can include a return of previously mastered skills like sleeping, eating, toilet training, or even baby talking and crawling. Signs of regression may include thumb-sucking, excessive tantrums, clinginess, or acting more babyish than usual. It’s common to see regressed behaviours during significant changes, like starting school, after toilet training, the birth of a sibling, or separation from a parent.
Phases of regressed behaviours are a completely normal part of any child’s development. For children who have experienced significant stress or trauma, regression can happen suddenly or persist over time. What to do? Pause. Breathe. Breathe some more. Listen to their words, their tone, and their choice of language. Breathe some more. See if you can meet the need for nurturance that they are expressing through this behaviour. Try and avoid shaming their behaviour and saying things like ‘you’re a big boy/girl now’ ‘speak in your big voice’.
It might seem counter-intuitive, but dismissing or denying their needs could cause them to increase and prolong these behaviours or revert to other extreme forms of regression in order to get the particular kind of attention they are seeking. This increased awareness and understanding will guide you on whether to push, refrain, or create acceptance in a new way.
Supporting them through this stage will go a long way in helping them achieve mastery and progress to the next developmental milestone. …..and remember, this shall also pass. As species, we are wired to mature and grow at our own pace.
